providing healing for others is Nobel action~
being in service for others needs, dedicating our time and effort for an external call~
in this article, I would like to have a look from a point of view over it.
a reflective point of view over the inner need to Offer service:
we have different reactions to others laughter, we all have different approaches to our own and to others pain; in certain cultures, you see a person in grief and you immediately start to cry together with them, in others seeing the cry of another actually brings peace into one’s eyes as we know that they are on the right path, cleaning what needs to be cleaned. in certain cultures, it is honored to cry, while in other cultures, you are not allowed to cry and you are expected to contain your grief, hold it inside as it is not respected or Nobel to express emotions of grief.
in each culture, we will develop a different relationship with pain and grief as a feeling, our own feeling, and the way that we perceive the feelings of others as well.
cultures and origins have such a powerful differentiation, in certain cultures of vegans, killing an animal or even eating a dead animal will be considered an act of savage, while in a culture of cannibals, eating a family member when the time is right is considered another day of celebration or Holiday as other cultures call it.
proving healing for others could come from different inner needs inside of us;
it could come from the purity of a healing soul that exists in this world to help and take care of its fellows.
*some will have the need for an inner recognition- to know that they are able to make a change in another person, it is related to the missing experience that we dealt with in the other article (liquid forms of consciousness part 2),
the need to fulfill a sense of self-recognition that we are worthy to make a difference in others, that we are capable to give help, to assist, to make a significant change, I personally might have been driven originally from this origin. some will come from the need to make a change in others so they can find themselves in a group of equals with those people. the need to be in a group of equals is pulling us to make many changes in the way that we talk, dress, act, and even the way that we offer services.
therefore offering to heal to another person, or in this case bringing them to our state of what we see as the remedy for them could be actually feeding our own need at the same time.
it is very important that while providing help for another person I am not bringing harm to my self:
it is common for a therapist at the beginning of their path to discharge the pain and agony of another person over themselves, harming their own health to be able to provide health for another, if I see the sadness in another person and I become sad together with them, the sadness that usually will be deriving from an unknown source that I am not ready to judge or much time to understand, that sadness will dwell into my own self and while it dwells into my self, it will have the potential to echo on and find new nests in the hearts of the others that surrounds me;
I will become a part of a chain of ongoing destruction. it is essential to be able to provide a healing process and to be able to enhance the constructive process other and feed the destructive we need to be clear with our initial intentions, and why we are driven to support others in their healing process.
with the compassion as an inner quality has the lead of purity to provide the healing for both sides, for the giver as amounting its compassion is a personal healing practice and for the receiver, as with compassion we are able to allow the inner healing to accrue, it is the main cure and the most potential one.
the water is a great example of a healer strategy, it is always accepting with grace, and then it is always flowing and changing, washing off and passing it on and on and on. we look at it and it seems the same, transparent though it changes all the time, unless it stays in the same place and then after a while, it will start to stink… and to bring disease.
it is very important to check our initial attitude for the person that we meet,
if I will be arriving for a person with the attitude of misery, thinking to our selves; this person is in great pain, or this person is in great grief, I need to help them to become different, I am starting from a point of view of judgment, creating a suffering box around them and by that we are blocking compassion from being the main actors in this meeting, therefore we are actually creating for the person that comes to receive healing, new conflicts or enhancing old ones.
the responsibility is not to take too much responsibility on your self,
it is a big responsibility for a therapist not to take responsibility for the reaction and state of the others as driven from the need and will to help, but only when we are coming to the purity of actions, if it not our fault, and even if it is, to provide actual healing for the other we need to take our personal stories and thoughts out of the story, we need to stick to the understanding that we are coming to be a vessel for healing that doesn’t serve us and that we trust that the inner wisdom of the person in our hands.