The importance of feedback in a practice space
Feedback- Nursing back, to give in return, gifting words of honesty.
Words of feedback that are derived directly from our reality and experience are more important than any theoretical material, lecture, movie or documentary. Feedback is a gift to be given only by those who are kind enough to give.
We choose the path of learning, knowing we have the opportunity to grow, fulfill ourselves, to be precise, to become professional.
We will receive the most valuable feedback from our colleagues and those who are familiar with our practice, its glossary, the tiny differences. This paves our path for growth.
While we give treatment, it is also highly recommended to share and ask for feedback. Our practice, on the other hand, is the perfect opportunity for us to give and receive real-time feedback from our fellow practitioners.
Real-time is the here and now, it can never be then or later.
Self Expression as a medicine
It is important to express meaningful sensations we felt throughout the practice with words – any sorts of comforts or discomforts, share it with our partner.
It is important to remember that the people we practice with approach us with a loving presence (ideally), and we should share our feedback with them with that same loving presence. Choose your words wisely when you share your feedback. Not in order to avoid hurting our partners or to allow them the gift of growth (that should not be our decision to make). But in order to show them, we bring our loving presence along. Allow the words to become a practice or treatment at that exact moment.
Let your partner know what they do particularly well and where they are in the wrong, which can create an experience of successive or negative chain reaction. It will shape your partner’s future practice:
++Givers: let them know what they did really well and what they didn’t. Think about a child (or the inner child): how you help them find confidence in a newly acquired skill and what you can do to help them strengthen it by expressing support. Giving priceless feedback is effortless.
++Future receivers: without feedback, the same practices will re-occur. The giver is not aware of what can or should be done better. At the same time, what they do best will not get the necessary acknowledgment in order to potentially become a special personal skill of the giver.
++Group practice: We bring ourselves to the practice space with the intention to learn how to give and receive unconditionally, and to open up to the group’s practice and openness. This is a great opportunity to foster a loving, familial experience. However, in order to create something meaningful, sharing feedback has to be reciprocal. And sharing can easily become as contagious as laughter or a yawn.
++Unconditional gifting: How noble is it to gift and expect nothing in return! Unconditional gifting not on specific days or events (e.g. Hanukka, Christmas, Midburn or Burning Man), but in your everyday life.
++You as a person: allow ourselves the freedom to express our thoughts and feelings freely. To be seen and heard; to share the most intimate moments we’ve experienced during the practice; be proud of our vulnerabilities and feel comfortable sharing them. Allow personal growth and make up for all those other times we did not have the opportunity to experience feedback sharing. Allow yourselves the freedom to receive and share feedback even when it feels slightly selfish.
In my article about Authenticity,https://flydeeper.org/who-is-the-leader-in-the-healing-sessions/ I will elaborate more on the topics of openness, the healing properties of sharing vs. the destroying effect of not sharing.
**All feedback is welcome in real-time, while it is still relevant and within our practice space. It will lose its effect when shared later.
**When our practice turns into treatment, we will have the chance to receive feedback at the end of the process. But remember it is important to also share our feedback as givers.
**The givers bear the responsibility to give the best they can at any given moment and time.
**The receivers bear the responsibility to share generously and with all their hearts, knowing the giver will dive higher and aspire to become an even better giver.